UPDATE: WIBTA for kicking my best friend (24F) off my (25F) Hulu account due to her actions?

My first post can be found here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/oLERaDdhVQ

So, I wouldn’t say this is like a huge dramatic update or anything, but some stuff did happen that just didn’t sit right with me and I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest. The day I made the original post, I worked from home so I was periodically checking my Hulu to see if my best friend and her roommate were going to continue changing his name.

They did it twice since I had made the post (not to insults at least but just deleting it) and I decided I’d had enough. I logged everyone out, changed the password, and only shared the new password with my brother and the ex. I was nervous about causing more drama but it wasn’t fair to my friend to allow them to continue, so I sent her a message which said:

I made it clear that you and (roommate) were not to change anybodys hulu profile name. Since y’all werent able to follow my rule I no longer feel comfortable giving you access to my hulu account. If you would like to discuss and resolve the issue I am of course always here to do so. You are one of my best friends and I want to make sure we are on the same page about this. But during edc I do not want to talk about this at all because we are there to have fun with everyone. I don’t get to see y’all as often as I wish I did and I want to just have an amazing weekend with y’all (end of message)

I tried hard to be firm on my boundaries but still present things in a nice way as I didn’t want to cause tension for our upcoming music festival. She responded with “girl its not us lol” and I told her that the only other people who use my hulu are my brother, her ex, and another friend who I know wouldn’t do this, so it had to be them.

She then said that it was probably her old roommate since she gave her my login info when they lived together (which I never told her she could do but whatever) and that the old roommate hates him. I told her that I doubted it was her since they had a falling out, if she doesn’t care about my best friend anymore why would she care enough to insult her ex through my hulu? Plus why wouldn’t she target my friend and her current roommate as well?

It just didn’t add up to me and I felt like she was trying to deflect blame, and I told her as much. After sending the message about my doubts I told her I no longer wanted to talk about this unless I got real answers, but also tried to keep it civil by telling her I was excited to see her at edc and I hoped she enjoyed halloweekend.

She ignored the nicer parts and responded with major hostility, only saying “sorry ur bff (her ex)’s account keeps getting fucked with. that must rlly hurt his feelings poor guy” and to be honest, that message upset me because she knew that we were friends before they even started dating, why get upset with me about it?

I ended up not responding cause I didn’t think I’d say anything good. But I see her in a couple days for edc and I’m really nervous about any possible tension going on during that. That’s where things are at now and I’m not really sure how to proceed.