AITA for not texting my pregnant best friend?

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Back in April my cousin and his girlfriend told me that they’re pregnant. And I was stoked. His girlfriend and I are super close, she was even the maid of honor in my wedding. I made a point of constantly texting and asking how she was and everything. And I was always lucky to even get a response. she never once texted me first about anything.

Well, in May I found a weird lump on my arm and began the doctors appointments. It took until last week for me to find out I did not have cancer. She knew about the lump but I did not tell her when the doctor told me we needed to start running tests to see if it’s cancer.

I got super sick on top of all the appointments and no longer had the time or energy to be constantly texting her first and a month went by and I never heard from her. She never once asked how i was feeling with my lump or how any of my appointments were going. So I decided I wouldn’t be filling her in unless she asked.

The whole cancer scare is over and I decided to post the full story on social media. I included a comment about checking on your friends because I only had a small group of people who cared throughout the whole thing. Well, she messaged me all angry talking about how I never check up on her and she never heard from me and she can’t believe I didn’t tell her what was going on. I didn’t respond and at her baby shower this past weekend she completely ignored me.

So, AITA here? Because I kind of feel bad for not texting her but I also don’t because when I stopped texting first, I stopped hearing from her at all.

Edit for clarity: wow I’ve received a lot of responses and haven’t gotten a chance to read them all but I’ve seen a couple repeating questions. I understand how the social media comment comes off as passive aggressive. To be clear, it wasn’t only directed at her. it was more of a broad comment on how the only people who asked how i was were my parents and siblings, and my husbands parents and siblings. And, it was just “look at this weird bump” and then silence. My arm was always either numb or in pain because of the lump and I would update her on when I had appointments and she wouldn’t check in afterwards. I wasn’t clear on these points and apologize for that.