Is this a red flag?

I'm 30F in a tech job, earning fairly well and have been in the AM process since 6 months. I met this person (31M), in May this year. Let's call him X. He was in a tech job, but quit 2 months back to start a business. We vibed really well and had a great time. We saw each other for two months and he wanted to know how wealth will be distributed between my brother and me in the future. Is this a normal question in the AM setup? As a family, we hadn't really discussed this and I wasn't sure of the answer. X and I had multiple conversations and it only escalated. I felt like my value was tied to what my father had to offer. So I said I would do what I like with my inheritance, because it's mine. He got offended that I wasn't looking at it from a partnership perspective and called it off.

A month later he comes back and has been extremely nice, plans dates, drives conversations etc. I have been talking to him because I still like him. However, he hasn't established if he would like to see this getting serious. During one of the conversations, he mentioned that if I have a certain amount to invest, he would look for avenues for it grow. He also said it would be a combined decision and I could choose not to. While the mindset of growth is great, is he looking at me only as an invester and not a life partner? Is this a red flag?

Meanwhile my parents set me up with another person Y. His profile is great on paper. I met him for about half an hour and I did not feel attracted to him. Is attraction required for a marriage? I couldn't feel the spark. He was a really nice guy otherwise. My dad says I must be willing to compromise on certain aspects, but I am not able judge if it's the right thing to do. Any advice or a pov I am missing would be appreciated