What are some boundaries you’re setting if you give them another chance?
I (20F) blocked my mother’s number almost 3 years ago. I’ve been talking to a therapist who’s been very encouraging. I’ve decided that in the next few years i’ll give it another chance (only if my siblings do the same, I need to see signs of improvement first).
If I ever muster the courage to see her face to face again, i’ve already started thinking of some boundaries I would set.
No religion or politics. We both know what I stand for, and we both know what she stands for. Shut up about it, or I will leave and block the number again.
Not allowed to touch me. I was physically and verbally abused pretty often. Even if she touched me “in a loving way” it was always emotionally confusing for me. I always felt betrayed, and knew I was simply being manipulated again.
No lying. There’s some messy things i’ve found out about her that she’s heavily denied in the past. ex. Dating my uncle first, stealing my older sister’s money.
I can understand if some people think it would be best to just leave her alone. What would y’all do?