Husband dropped the ball on our anniversary dinner and I can’t get over it

My (30F) husband (31M) and I celebrated our first year anniversary a couple months ago with a trip out of the country. I’m typically the planner for our trips and planned our accommodations and itinerary with excursions etc. My husband offered to plan our anniversary night dinner and I was really excited about this as he’s not usually a planner. Well, a few nights before we left on our trip he mentions that he was having trouble finding a restaurant (we were going to be staying downtown in a relatively large international city). I told him the place doesn’t matter to me and that I’d be happy with anything.

Long story short, the night of our anniversary he tells me he wasn’t able to find a place and I end up finding a restaurant for us last minute. I can’t even lie, I was super disappointed, but I didn’t want to ruin the night so I kept it to myself.

Well, eventually after the trip we talked about it and I told him how hurt I was that he didn’t even try and do this one thing for our anniversary for us after I planned the rest of the trip. We then argued for hours (literally) about whether he “tried” or not.. I’m typing this out now because the topic came back up. He never acknowledged how hurtful this was for me because I refuse to say that his attempt counted as “trying”. I just don’t think it was good enough but I’m now starting to feel crazy.

I’m not sure what I’m asking for here… just any advice really. (I’m going to add we’ve been together for 13 years)