Did your relationship/Narc have a strange dreamlike quality?

It’s almost hard for me to explain but I remember from the beginning all the way up until now (2 months post discard) that he almost seemed like a vague concept than a literal person. He was very much the “nice guy” type and the relationship was very smooth all the way through until the mask slipped. It was long distance, with visits, and I remember even after he same to stay with me for a week, it was like he hadn’t even been here at all, even though the visit itself was wonderful. I questioned at times because of how calm and abstract he felt to me if perhaps my love for him wasn’t very deep. Because in the past even my more toxic relationships felt “real”. I truly did love his good parts (had they realy existed) but oddly enough this has made the breakup a little less painful than others, like he was a ghost or something. Like we broke up years ago. I guess it could be chalked up to them being fake and that’s why it seemed so unreal, but I also feel it more than that.