Did others notice any red flags about your abuser?

For months, I wanted to reach out to my neighbor about the abuse. She always seemed like such a kind and caring person, and I felt like I could trust her. But I was scared she wouldn’t understand or might dismiss me, like others had before. I hesitated a few times, but eventually, I worked up the courage to tell her.

Her reaction was incredibly kind. I didn’t even have to use the words “abuse” or “narcissistic” its like she already knew.

she had sensed something was off about my abuser from the start. She could tell he was trying to put on a mask to seem like a good person, but deep down, there was more to the story.

I wish I could have sensed this about my abuser before we started dating, or I wouldn’t be in this mess.