Military relationships aren’t all bad

My SO and I have been together for two years and are at the tail end of our first deployment together (he has been deployed previously). It is strange to think about, but I honestly feel more secure in our relationship now than ever before. I understand being deployed means spotty communication and many unknowns, and my SO is so intentional about communicating when he can and makes sure to let me know he’s thinking about me. It just makes me feel so loved. Example: he will text or email me when he wakes up and goes to sleep, even though we are in very different time zones and he knows I am not awake and won’t respond to at least one of them. He does it because he knows it makes me feel better to hear SOMETHING from him, even if it’s a goodnight text that I don’t read until the next morning. While we have definitely gone through times when he isn’t feeling himself due to distance or time away from home, solid communication has really been at the core of our relationship.

I was married before to a civilian and felt like less of a priority in my marriage than my relationship now, without any of the struggles that come along with military life.

I guess my point is that you will hear SO many negative things about being with a military member, and while there are absolutely sucky things, any relationship is what you and your partner put into it.

TLDR: There ARE people in the military that are worth the sacrifices, and they will show you with their actions. You deserve a healthy love!