Hugs and healing

If anyone can spare some healing vibes, I could use them. My mom just disowned me for getting my nose pierced. I’m 35 years old, married, have had a career, and am currently getting my doctorate. By any reasonable definition I’ve done everything a traditional parent could want (aside from have kids, but who wants kids with a mom like her?). But I also wanted to look how I wanted to look and I didn’t warn her or solicit her opinion.

She’s always been volatile, this isn’t a shock, and I don’t exactly feel sad or hurt, just kind of tired. We had weekly counseling with a therapist to try to improve our relationship. To the therapist’s credit, he’s done a TON to improve her, but I guess this is the straw that broke the camel’s back; she’s decided she wants to cancel all future sessions. I want to not care, I want have a better mother, I want the burden of her not to fall on my brother (who is critically ill and doesn’t need this shit), I want this to not be how it is. My partner, bless him, has been team “cut her off for years”, so although he’s being as supportive as he can, I feel like he can’t be objective in helping me figure out what I’m feeling.

Anyway, if anyone has bandwidth to light a candle for or send some good vibes to a stranger, I’d appreciate it.