Men of Reddit, how do you update your partner?

Problem/Goal: Gusto ko lang malaman how you update your partner when you’re outside with your friends. Example, chill drinking with friends or workmates na umaabot ng midnight to morning, out of town with friends, basta everything that doesn’t include your partner when going out. I’m asking this because I feel like I’m being toxic for asking my partner to make kwento or update me with photos. Not naman to the point na kahit anong gawin niya with photos. Too much ba if like photos of them with his kasama if I don’t know them, some snaps of his food, view of the surroundings if traveling. I want the feeling that I don’t require it, but the feeling of even if were miles apart, we are involved in each other ganaps. We’re the type of couple na hindi naman nagpapaalam sa mga ganap, like update lang if may lakad since may kanya-kanyang buhay naman kami. But sometimes, I felt sad na matatapos na lang yung araw niya na walang na-share.

Am I asking for too much and toxic ba? I don’t know, I don’t want to be toxic naman kaya gusto ko malaman din thoughts niyo.