Husband rant (looking for solidarity)

I'm not looking for advice, just similar stories and solidarity 💪🏻 . .

I love my husband and he's a good father to our 17 month old son, but it always feel like he's doing nothing. He'll try to help when I ask, but he never has the initiative to just come help me if he sees me struggling with something. And most of the time, it just feels like he's standing around waiting to be told what to do, which means I just end up doing whatever I was struggling with on my own anyway. I don't "gatekeep" parenting. I've shown him how to do everything and told him the whats, whens, and hows of it all, not to mention he does have a night and an afternoon where hes on his own. But he still just seems clueless 90% of the time. He's working full-time and I'm the SAHM right now, so when he comes home he's tired and I get that, but so am I. It really urks me that he comes home and is "physically" there but disappears on his phone or naps, while I continue to parent and keep house until I have to ask for help.