How do we cope with real men?

I just finished reading Manacled, it was such a moving story and I'm now completely in love with Draco - i genuinely miss him even with a boyfriend.

I told my boyfriend he doesn't take sex seriously enough and i don't feel wanted, but i didn't feel that way before reading Manacled.

I think dark romance can poison certain women's (like me) expectations like porn does to some men. I love my boyfriend but he just seems goofy in comparison to Draco.

How do i cope with being with a real person and not a perfect dark book character who would kill for me? I feel torn between them even though one doesn't even exist.

Edit: BTW, Go read Manacled if you like a well written, exciting dark romance!