Maybe they ghosted us for a reason

I have been recently brutally rejected after a first date and then ghosted. Even when things were looking extremely great. I feel like I am doomed because it has been my only date in 4 years, since COVID-19.

People usually say that ghosting is the ghoster fault, but I was wondering if this was my fault.

Yes, I get that we can't control others emotions, and ghosting is something disgusting that should not happen.

But we can't deny that the way we show up will HEAVILY influence the outcome of the interaction. If we were more charismatic, more engaging, more handsome, more charming.... The ghosting would not had happened.

In the end in most cases like mine they owe us nothing, after talking for days or weeks and 1 date, they don't owe any explanation.

In my case if I had more dating experience the outcome would have been totally different. It's sad but now I just have to wait 4 more years until I get another date.