Did I get played/ghosted by the celebrity I went on a date with?
my situation has been one that I can’t stop thinking about and would appreciate some advice/insight to help me
So I met this extremely well known public figure/celebrity when I was out and had a nice conversation. I walked down the road and about 5 minutes later I turned around and he was back to ask for my number and, I gave it to him. The day after we met he texted me to arrange a day to meet up, we decided to have drinks at his place (he did originally offer going out, but I asked for something more low-key as I was wary of potential unwarranted attention since people would recognise and maybe photograph him if we went out together). We texted very lightly up until the date, mainly just about logistical stuff. We had an amazing date and it seemed like we had a vibe. we sat super close, him mirroring my body language, smiling, asking and remembering things about it me, complimenting me, kissing me and he brought up how he wanted to see me again.
Now this is where it went downhill… after the date his communication was slowing down, taking longer to respond to my texts, to the point I was convinced I got ghosted. eventually he responded to my last text saying something along the lines of him being glad I had a good week. I didn’t respond since i felt he wasn’t all that interested in talking to me. Over week later I decided to reach out to ask when he would want see me again: expecting to be either left on delivered for days again, politely rejected or even completely ignored. Honestly, I just sent the text so I could have the closure so I could move on. It had been a while since the initial date, but he responded very quickly to me saying he was out the country and would hit me up when he’s back. the way he worded the text seemed very deliberate that he didn’t want me to take it as an excuse and that he was being genuine, and that he was “sending me love from (the location he was in)”. After that we exchanged a few more texts and that was it.
After then he didn’t hit me up again. I didn’t understand what was going on. I decided to not message him again as I didn’t see the point anymore. I’d already my position known and put the ball in his court and was aware of the fact that he said he’d hit me up on his time. I did see online that when he came back into town he was only here for a week, since then there had been no sightings of him posted online (whenever he’s in our city people ALWAYS take and post pics/vids of him.) it makes me believe that he isn’t living in my country at the moment, which seems quite likely. Although surely he could’ve let me know that if he cared enough.
The way he acted seemed so strange to me, ive never had a guy act like this to me before. Obviously he’s not interested enough but Is he just trying to keep the door open with me? Im trying to get it all out of my head but its hard when whenever I scroll on TikTok his songs are playing in the audios, or even walking around seeing girls wearing his merch… its like the universe is taunting me lol.
Edit: I did reach out briefly about a month ago and he promptly and warmly responded so I guess it’s not an actual ghosting situation.