Why is everything so sexualised and weird these days

Why is it that these days the majority of men have porn addictions and everything on the internet is sexualised and twisted? I am a female who myself enjoys sex a lot, it’s very important to me but I think the best part of it is that genuine human connection. But everything on the internet is just twisted and odd, it shocks me that people can be attracted to this kind of stuff (I’m mainly talking about all the weird only fans promotion shit I see on Instagram and stuff that is supposed to draw people in). It shocks me what I saw on my boyfriends phone, the sexualisation of Asian girls, dancing around in spider-man suits and wearing fox tail butt plugs, the hentai images… These days I think it is very rare to find someone who’s mind isn’t sexually corrupt, perhaps it is due to the internet negatively influencing sex and porn. What i wonder the most is do these people feel shameful when masturbating to this stuff? Or does it excite them and give them a thrill, knowing they are hiding it from their partner? The part I dislike is how I would feel shameful to tell somebody I know in real life about my boyfriend’s addiction. Because I worry they would think: maybe I’m not good enough for him. Maybe it’s because I don’t sexually please him enough. Maybe I’m not attractive enough. When none of that is true. I know I’m an attractive woman, I know I please my boyfriend more than the average person does. All the pictures and videos I spend hours taking to make them the best I can for his eyes. Just to send them to him and feel like he would rather be looking at girls on Reddit and false, corrupted porn instead. I’m 18. I’m young. My first relationship, and it has made me believe that the majority of men are just like my boyfriend. I hate it. I just want extreme devotion and human connection. I hate how it’s twisted my mind and now everything I see is sexualised, because I’m imagining it through my boyfriend‘s perspective. I miss the innocence before I found out. When I believed him when he said he didn’t watch porn.