Dating an avoidant (bi) married woman — a lost cost?

I (woman, bisexual) have been seeing this girl (also bisexual) for about 4 dates. She’s in the middle of an amicable split with her husband—they’re still living together and dating other people. They no longer have s*x. There’s also a guy she’s been seeing, though he knows about me and is apparently ‘jealous’ of the fact she is dating a woman, but ultimately accepting.

We’ve had four dates, and the connection feels electric. Yesterday, she invited me up to Yale to see her alma matter and take me to a play. We spent the night at her in laws and nearly had sex/spent the whole night cuddling. When we kissed goodbye the next day I asked her if she enjoyed what happened the night before and she turned bright red grabbed my hand and said ‘of course’. She was also sad we wouldn’t see each other for a week.

Here’s where I’m struggling: she’s a dismissive avoidant. She’s self-aware and in therapy but told me she doesn’t think she’s ever been wildly in love. She’s not great at talking about emotions and sometimes feels distant—like after last night, when I sent her a flirty text about blushing thinking about it, and she just replied with an emoji.

I’m really into her and can see potential here, but I’m wondering if I’m setting myself up for disappointment. With her split, her other relationships, and her avoidant tendencies, am I fooling myself into thinking this could work? Or should I give her time and see where it goes?