Feeling rejected

I (27F) asked my partner Jack (35M) out and he said no because the activity I wanted to do, his wife has always wanted to do and he has to do it with her first otherwise he would feel guilty.

Think bowling, I asked him to go bowling on our next date, and he said we should do something else until he and meta have gone bowling first. I understand there is hierarchy here, but I can’t help but feel mad.

This doesn’t seem right to me, it doesn’t feel good to be rejected like this.

This comes after meta uninvited me to Jack’s birthday party. Turns out she was feeling jealous and insecure which came out of nowhere as she has always been supportive of Jack and I, and she is super confident and stunning. Jack stood by and did nothing.

Maybe this is not a dynamic I want to be part of.