How do people bounce back after a bad meet?

UPDATE: oh my word! I’ve received an overwhelming amount of advice and I’m so grateful for it all. I probably won’t be able to respond to most of it because there’s so much, but THANK YOU! I love powerlifting because of the amount of support and kindness that people show one another, and this comments section reminded me of that!

I’m grateful that others have kindly pointed out that I’m too reliant on powerlifting for my happiness and that’s an unhealthy mindset to have. Things won’t always go my way but that‘s not a reason to quit.

I’ll suck it up, take the lessons and be better for the next competition. I’ll post an update when I do it.

Thank you again. I wish everyone an amazing powerlifting career!❤️

I hope this is allowed here. I’m just wondering — how do people bounce back after a meet that didn’t go to plan? I’m genuinely questioning if this sport is for me because this is my second meet, and things still haven’t gone how I’d hoped.

I’m just over a year into powerlifting. My first meet last year was rough — I went 4/9, totalled 382.5kg (152.5/65/165), and placed first, but it didn’t feel like a win. My second comp was this past weekend, and I felt way more confident going in. Warm-ups felt great, no nerves, and I was primed for a huge day with a projected 445kg total.

But then my first squat flew, only to get called on depth. Second attempt — depth again. I was so stressed because if I missed my third, I’d bomb out. Somehow, I got my third squat, but it really threw me off. Bench and deadlift were okay, but I still missed my third attempts. Ended the day 5/9 with a 417.5kg total (167.5/75/175). Placed first again, but it means nothing to me because I just wanted a clean day.

The goal was to qualify for a higher-level comp in July, and I did — but now I’m scared the same thing will happen again. I can’t shake the disappointment or embarrassment from the day. I even feel like I let my coach down (he’s assured me I didn’t). I love powerlifting so much, but when things go wrong, it really hits hard.

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TL;DR: How do you bounce back after a meet that didn’t go to plan?