my boyfriend is unemployed and not motivated.

me (29F) and my boyfriend (28) have been dating for almost 3 years now. It has been an amazing relationship, I have never felt so seen, heard, safe and validated in a relationship before. This is really only my second proper relationship. My first one was abusive. Anywho, this man has treated me like an absolute goddess since we got together. I could not have asked for a more caring and kind partner. When we first got together I was unemployed and living alone. I could only really afford rent and some bills. He would help me out with food even though I would say no. I was eating one meal a day before we started dating. We were friends for a few years before we got together. Anyway, he was working and I wasn’t. Then I got a job a year into dating. Maybe a few months into my job, we moved out together and got a house. He ended up quitting his job because it was toxic, and I said yep no worries, I can take care of everything until he finds something else. He told me it was going to be a month before he found something. It’s been almost 2 years now. He ended up on Centrelink to help me with half the rent, but I’m taking care of basically all the bills and groceries. I work full time, I go to the gym, I go to pole dance classes, I see my friends, I recently got a new car, my life is drastically different to what I was living prior to getting my new job. The only thing I really am bothered by is the fact he doesn’t know how to take care of a home. His side of the bed is always covered in rubbish and dishes, the most he does house wise is the dishes while I’m at work, well most of the time. He’s never vacuumed or mopped without being asked. Like I have to tell him what to do in the house. I even made a chore chart and what chores on what days to do them on. But nothing ever seems to get done. He does smoke weed and plays video games all day. I’m worried I have enabled him for far too long. He doesn’t have a car either so when he wants to do things he borrows mine. I have tried to have conversations with him about the house and such and asked how the job hunt is going and what he’s looking to do. But it’s coming up to 2 years now and I’m starting to feel like he doesn’t care to try. I don’t know if I’m making sense, but I feel like I’m mothering him. We don’t have sex very often anymore, and I’m quite frankly not attracted to him anymore. He doesn’t do anything. I always think like, how can you be unemployed for so long, and have no money for anything, like you can’t even really catch up with mates cause you can’t afford it, as well as help me out or take us out on dates. I’ve been so close to breaking up with him, but I can’t. Sometimes I wish he would just cheat on me so it would give me a reason to leave. Anywho, not really sure what else to do.

tl;dr boyfriend has been unemployed for almost 2 years out of our 3 year relationship, hasn’t been motivated at all, never cleans the house, plays video games and smokes weed all day.