Am I bisexual or a lesbian?

I have been with 1 man before my current boyfriend, and 3 women before that. I am rarely attracted to men and I’m more attracted to people based on their personality rather than gender. I thought I had worked out my sexuality, until my partner told me “you’re basically a lesbian” which shocked me a bit. The thing is I don’t enjoy giving men handjobs or blowjobs, I don’t know why but I’m not eager to touch men even if it’s someone I’m physically attracted to. I was eager to touch women though, so does it mean I don’t like men? I have also been SA’d by multiple men and I feel unsafe around men in general so could that be something to do with it?