When I try to defend myself

I was always called jealous or ugly. ALL THE TIME. This is especially true of men.

Like for example when I try to point something out about a women or how mean/ catty she was, a guy friend or my brother would be like “well she was so nice, you’re just jealous of her”. Like??? Why would I be jealous of a person I DONT EVEN KNOW?? This is always the case with the opposite gender I find. They always have some shit like that to say and HAVE to white knight the situation. Why do they have to defend someone who is mean and who they DONT EVEN KNOW, Yet put me down who they KNOW? Why? Why are men or opposite genders like this? Because I’ve seen women do this to their guy friends to who are unattractive.

I’m just so disgusted by this behavior as an unattractive women always being called ugly AND JEALOUS. I’m so tired? Why must I always be accused of things when I’m trying to defend myself against rude mean people? Why is my attempt at standing up for myself always seem like I’m being rude and evil towards the defenseless cute women or men? Why? I hate people.