"I get a pass, I am a widower!"

Is widowhood the most traumatic thing you ever experienced? I have found my personality has changed. How has yours changed? What I mean is I believe I get a pass on certain behaviors due to my status, and amuse myself by saying I have a "widower pass" when I do things I wouldn't have done previously. If it hasn't, I would encourage you to be a victor instead of a victim. Live a little, get crazy (compared to any rigidity) and say "I have a widow/er pass!"